"Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world."
- James 1:27
All of our reasons for why we’re adopting somehow seems to fit in these three below.
1. Adoption is a picture of how God loves us.
See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! - 1 John 3:1
As Christians, our faith is central to us and affects every part of lives; it’s driven much of our decision-making process. Adoption is profound in an earthly and divine way. As we pursue adopting K-Buddy, in many ways it is a small reflection and glimpse of God’s love for people.
The premise of Christianity is that God knows and loves us and desires a deep and personal relationship with each of us. But we’ve gone our own way and our selfishness and sin has separated us from him. Yet, as a generous Father he’s gone to extraordinary lengths to reconcile those separated from him. To provide the way into relationship with him. God stepped into our brokenness and gave us Himself, in Jesus, through whom we can be reconciled to God.For anyone wishing to respond to God’s loving pursuit, the Bible talks about how this restorative relationship happens as God the Father takes the initiative to adopt us into his family, giving us the full rights, responsibilities, and privileges of being his own. In his book, Knowing God, J.I. Packer writes an encouraging chapter about what the Bible means when it talks about being adopted by God.
What is a Christian? The question can be answered in many ways, but the richest answer I know is that a Christian is one who has God as Father… If you want to judge how well a person understands Christianity, find out how much he makes of the thought of being God’s child, and having God as his Father… Sonship to God is a gift of grace. It is not a natural, but an adoptive sonship… Our understanding of Christianity cannot be better than our grasp of adoption. - J.I. Packer
If you’re curious to chat about any of this, whether thoughts, questions, even disagreements, we’d love to hear from you so definitely connect with us in a message, comment, etc.
Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God— children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God. – John 1:12-13
2. We don’t necessarily long for more biological children
We love firstborn son; we planned for him and he was graciously given to us. If tomorrow morning we wake up and find out we’re pregnant we would joyfully welcome that little nugget into our lives!
At the same time, being totally honest here.. neither of us have a deep longing for more biological children. We know for many this is a fervent desire and hope. We don’t know why it isn’t for us. But in light of this, we thought a strange and unlikely stewardship of this “lack” of desire could be to adopt. We know we want to grow our family but we don’t necessarily think it has to happen through more biological children.
There are already a lot of children in the world that need a family. According to UNICEF, as of 2015, that number is 140 million. That’s enormous. What do we do with a number like that? Author and pastor, Andy Stanley, has a life principle, “Do for one what you wish you could do for everyone.”
3. We’ve been exposed.
We know a number of people who have adopted or fostered, both domestically and internationally. We also know people who are adopted. A quick count off the top of our heads is easily over 15 families. We don’t know the ins and outs of all of these families’ stories. They range from personal friends and family to colleagues and co-workers to acquaintances. We’ve talked with some about their experiences; we’ve observed the lives of many of the rest, and will continue to ask for insights.
The simple fact that there are others who’ve gone through the process and are living it out, through the highs and lows, has consequently made it more mentally accessible for us. If we didn’t know anyone who had adopted before we don’t know if we would’ve considered adoption as a realistic option. But because we’ve been exposed at varying levels to adoption from others, just “regular” people, it’s made the whole idea much more feasible in our minds and hearts.
As we add ourselves to this mix, we hope our journey can be part of raising some awareness for anyone else who might entertain the adoption idea. There’s a natural sense of advocacy that comes as a byproduct and we’re happy to be a part of it.